In my work, I come across all kinds of useful books, podcasts, apps and videos. These are the resources I’ve found most helpful. There are also suggestions for urgent help, and other therapists who have space.

Help now
  • Need to Talk? Call or text 1737 to connect with a trained counsellor
  • Te Haika Call 0800 745 477 to talk to Wellington’s crisis Mental Health Services
  • Square Breathing
  • Samaritans at 0800 72 66 66 and Lifeline Aotearoa at 0800 543 354 provide confidential, non‑judgemental, non‑religious 24/7  support from highly trained staff and volunteers when people are feeling loneliness, depression, despair, distress or suicidal.
  • The Quiet Place helps you do nothing for 30 seconds
  • Support for all survivors of sexual violence at the HELP Foundation
  • Providing a safety and support for women and children experiencing domestic violence at Women’s Refuge
  • Youthline provides a 24-7 helpline for youth call 0800 376 633, free text 234
  • OutLine is an all-ages rainbow mental health organisation providing support to the rainbow community, their friends, whānau, and those questioning – at 0800 688 5463
About anxiety

“Pure O” OCD: Letting Go of Obsessive Thoughts with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Chad Lejeune

Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety by Troy Du Frene & Kelly Wilson

Breaking Free of Childhood Anxiety and OCD by Eli Lebowitz
(an excellent guide for parents wondering “How can I help my child with their anxiety?”)

What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming OCD by Dawn Heubner

What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Heubner

About the limits of diagnosis and medication

Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker

Doctoring the Mind by Richard Bentall

The Emperor’s New Drugs by Irving Kirsch

Psychiatric Diagnosis by Lucy Johnstone

About depression

Postpartum Depression and Anxiety by Sonya Watson, Kathryn Whitehead

The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris

Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Depression by Kirk Strosahl & Patti Robinson Couples

About parenting

Breaking Free of Childhood Anxiety and OCD by Eli Lebowitz. (An excellent guide if you’re asking yourself “What do I do as a parent, to help my child with their anxiety?”)

Good Inside: A Practical Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr Becky Kennedy

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children by Thomas Gordon

Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser

The Nurtured Heart Approach podcast

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

Brief ACT Parenting videos

Lisa Coyne, ACT Psychologist, answers a range of parenting questions 

These short videos from the Family Institute demonstrate how to skillfully and lovingly handle familiar yet tough moments with your children

Awakening Greatness in Children video by Howard Glasser

About drugs and alcohol
About self-esteem

Kristin Neff and Steven Hayes discuss the benefits of focussing on Self-Compassion rather than on Self-Esteem.

How to Be Nice to Yourself: The Everyday Guide to Self-Compassion by Laura Silberstein-Tirch

Slowing down, noticing and mindfulness

With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.

Myths about Meditation with Dan Harris

In This Moment: Five Steps to Transcending Stress Using Mindfulness and Neuroscience by  Kirk Strosahl & Patricia Robinson

The Skeptic’s Guide to Meditation by Dan Harris

Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn

The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh

Other things that can help
Online therapy

The School of Life

Just a Thought (online course)

Aunty Dee (online course)


If I don’t have space to see you for one-to-one therapy, I recommend you contact the following professionals.  If you need urgent help, please contact Te Haika on 0800 745 477.

Nigel Guy, Rachel Navanua & Kaz: Queer Therapy Collective

Based in Wellington working with people aged 18 and over, of all genders and sexualities

Kerry Makin-Byrd

Based in Lower Hutt working with adults

Tina Ireland

Based in Kāpiti, specialising in helping people taper off medication